It’s so hard not to compare yourself to others, in terms of travel, blogging and well, pretty much every aspect of life. Having been limited on how often I could travel, blog and feel like myself, I’ve found myself comparing my achievements to others. It’s a slippery slope and one that I’ve thankfully decided to hike up instead of sliding down.
In an effort to curb this cycle I’m trying a new approach to some pretty important parts of my life.
In terms of blogging I’ve felt a little lost and unsure of my voice. After reading so many blog posts about having to be ‘on brand’ and to blog within the boundaries of my niche, I became overly critical of anything I wrote. The fact I even managed to write a few paragraphs with so much pressure was surprising and the number of shelved posts in my drafts is stupid.
Not only that but having a baby has differentiated me from some of my usual blogging go-tos and although having one doesn’t stop me from being me, it has meant that I’ve felt out of the loop. I no longer want to spend hours travelling to London for a networking evening aka a night of free drink and no dinner when I have a cute little baby waiting at home.
I’ve been teetering on the edge of a new circle, wanting to read things that I previously couldn’t care less about. I’ve been feeling split in two, like I don’t know which blogging world I belong to, and I’ve been scared to write anything new.
Thankfully I decided to stop being so ridiculous and to…wait for it…just write.
I’m sat here furiously tapping away, realising that I was the blocker all along, not the people I was comparing myself to. There’s no need to feel split in two when I can just be a part of it all.
My new approach for 2016 is to put my phone down. I’m not going to check my feeds every five minutes, aimlessly scrolling through other people’s travels, brimming with jealously. Checking the amount of likes on my post isn’t going to magically multiply it so why should I spend my precious time hitting ‘refresh’?
Equally, staring at a blank Word document isn’t going to fill it with exciting adventures so I’ve given myself a kick to just get on with typing whatever I like. It’s my blog and I’m the boss, but I guess I temporarily forgot that or perhaps I was scared to admit that as I was silently reading those other blogs.
I thought I had nothing to write about, but as soon as I started the words just flowed.
Having a baby does mean that I’m limited on when I can work, so my new set-up involves using the laptop from 9pm until about 11pm. This means there’s no time to waste and I have to just get on with it, being as efficient and effective as possible. It sounds tough, but getting rid of distractions like the TV and my phone, and being under a time limit seems to be helping. I’ve written four blog posts this evening!
Onwards and upwards, eh?
If you have any tips or advice they’d be much welcomed…X
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